Shibari Teddy
Trigger warning: themes of sexual assault Last summer, I had an unhealthy amount of sex. I would wake up, meet someone, sleep, and repeat for weeks. This wasn’t new, but the intensity was. It felt like an obsession – more than that, it was a full-time job. The sex itself was new: in experimentin
The Big Queer Monster
For weeks after the release of ‘Montero (Call Me By Your Name)’, Lil Nas X’s Twitter mentions were filled with homophobic slurs and Bible verses. At this point, it’s almost impossible not to have seen the music video for ‘Montero’, or at least the memes of Lil Nas X pole dancing his way
“I get a constant deluge of death threats”
Robert Mugabe was still alive when I spoke to Peter Tatchell back in late August. We had spoken about the former Zimbabwean President during our conversation, specifically Tatchell’s two attempts at placing Mugabe under citizen’s arrest, first in London in 1999, and again in Brussels in 2001. Af
Weekly Roundup: Mass Shootings, Prime Minister Boris, and Saudi Feminism
Back to back mass shootings in the USA Yesterday, it was reported that there had been a mass shooting in El Paso, Texas, with 20 killed and at least two dozen injured. This morning, it was reported that 9 people were killed in a shooting in Dayton, Ohio. The suspect in the El Paso shooting [&helli
In Conversation with Adam Eli
In an article for Teen Vogue, Adam Eli describes Princess Diana as the perfect mix of princess, rebel, and activist. These lines read like his autobiography. I wanted to interview Adam Eli because there is no one else that I follow online whose coverage of issues that many of us care about is so inf
Does your ‘masculinity’ need to seduce me?
‘That one.’ ‘Straight.’ ‘Really?’ ‘Yeah.’ ‘Damn.’ I’m sitting in the smoking area of a club. I’m surrounded by a mash-up of oversized shirts, denim, fine-artists, dramatists, bob-cuts, and dope. ‘But he’s coming over.’ Amid empty benches, he sits beside me. I notice o
Gay men don’t get to be angry
In a gorgeous essay for Lenny released in June 2016, actress and comedian Casey Wilson quoted something her father used to say after one of his outbursts of rage. “Men have anger.” So do women, Wilson explains. And so do gay men, I’d add. This year, I had a rough summer, and read Wilson
The Commercialisation of House Music
It’s 6am, and the sun is slowly rising over a dishevelled festival campsite in Croatia. White tank tops tucked into their shorts, backwards caps and man bags all in tow, the male population of this ethereal paradise are largely indistinguishable from each other as they blunder their way back to th
Excavating the Nightmare: Finding Prince Charming
It was one of the most anticipated reality shows of the decade: A gay Bachelor. The original Bachelor‘s channel, ABC, has long been known for its wholesome family fun (read, white heteronormative fun), and The Bachelor is no exception. The women must remain virginal. The men, good providers. W
